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Back in 2006, California psychologist Madeline Levine sounded the alarm on the damaging effects of overbearing parents in her book The Price of Privilege, which went on to be a New York Times best-seller and (supposedly) spur moms and dads into action. Six years later, she still sees run-ragged teenagers enter her practice with great grades and self-abuse issues, despondent about their futures and breaking under the pressure to succeed. In her new book, Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success, Ms. Levine likens them to trauma patients and points to harrowing studies that show 17% of Ivy League students are self-mutilators. What’s been missing from all the overparenting hand-wringing thus far, she told the Post’s Sarah Boesveld from her office in Marin County this week, has been solutions. A successful child is one that knows his or her own mind, who has coping skills, who is aware of and can act on his or her values, she said — not the one who gets the most university acceptance letters.
We all know overparenting is a problem, and yet a lot of parents ask, “What’s wrong with a little overparenting-lite?,” you pointed out in your widely circulated New York Times op-ed last weekend. Is there anything wrong with it?